Why is it so hard to say NO?
Very simple, because we believe that we are being selfish.
Because we are afraid that the other person will be upset or afraid that we will lose a friendship.
Did you know that not knowing how to say no is directly related to self-esteem.
Think, what are you really afraid of?
You can say no, there is no need to be rude or overbearing. It is important that you realize that you also have needs and the freedom to choose what you can and want to do should not give you pain or guilt, it is normal and especially in the long run will make you happy.
If you think it seems very complicated, I have prepared some tips to learn how to say NO.
Tip 1: To begin with, when you say no, you have to say it from the beginning, do not promise to something that you know beforehand that you will not be able to or simply do not want to do.
Tip 2: Use simple, firm and direct answers, it is not necessary to make excuses or give reasons why.
You can say something like “I’m sorry I already have plans”.
Tip 3: Do not be afraid to lose friendship, the person who really loves you, will not make you feel bad if you say no to him.
At first it is normal to feel uncomfortable when you say NO. It is part of the process of learning to set limits, and please! Do not feel guilty, in life not everything yes, and people already know it.
It is important that you know that the faster you begin to perform these tips, the faster you can free yourself from the bondage of saying yes to everything you do not want. And if you want to give yourself even more courage to learn the lesson, I recommend that you make a list of all the things you have not done because you always commit to others.
After you do it, you should now use it as a tool to encourage you to say NO. Dare and enjoy the opportunity to feel free and take another step to contribute to your happiness.